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wtf is this shit? Which school is doing this?
George Mason University, Fairfax, VA
My most recent text I’ve sent.
"What the fuck. Don’t text me. Delete my contact out of your fucking phone. I do not know you. How many times do I have to ask you to not contact me. Your lack of respect towards my no is very disturbing and you need to understand it does not matter how many days, weeks, or months it has been, I will never have any want to have contact with you. Do not text me again. Do not ever call me. Do not attempt to add me or follow me on any form of social media ever again. You need to acknowledge me as a human being and respect my no."
I came out of my yoga class to a “Hey” text.
What the actual fuck. This started well over two years ago. Someone with mutual friends talked to me on facebook and I replied. After a few conversations, if I didn’t reply soon, they would send multiple messages. That shit’s annoying, and if I’m not close with you, I will stop talking to you. I have no intention to become acquaintances with someone that cannot respect boundaries.
I would not contact them ever. They always talked to me, and I would reply once or twice maybe 1 out of every 5 times, and then stop replying. That then moved up to 1 out of maybe every 10 times. Why wouldn’t they stop trying to talk to me? I decided, “This must be my fault, I may not reply often and when I do it’s not much, but there are still those few times where I’ve replied. I’m going to stop altogether.” They continued to try to contact me.
I have asked them multiple times to not contact me, although they persisted. Through facebook they had gotten my number and they would also text me. Eventually, not this last Fall, but the one previous, I had a breakdown. I got out of work, at the time I was at the movie theatre, and began sobbing hysterically in my car, because they texted me again, after finally leaving me alone for a few months.
I screamed, and sobbed, and struggled to breathe, trying to calm down. This individual terrifies me. He needs to leave me alone. I replied furiously, to leave me alone. Telling him how much he angers and scares me, why couldn’t he respect my no, just stop trying to contact me, I don’t know you, I don’t want to, why won’t you leave me alone. He’d been blocked on my facebook for months, after attempting to add me with me rejecting the friend request over 10 times. What is he not understanding. He said he would stop talking to me and didn’t talk to me for some time and I was incredibly proud for standing up for myself, but also incredibly shaky.
Then, months later, last summer when I was in California, he texted me again. Apologizing this time for the way he had acted, and asking what had he done that was wrong. Calmly I explained how intrusive and disrespectful he was for continuing to disregard my wish for him to leave me be. He again apologized, and claimed he now understood how what his actions were, were wrong. Except clearly he didn’t learn a fucking thing, because immediately after, he attempted to strike up a conversation, where I struck him down right then, telling him, I would never have any interest in starting a friendship with him, I had no interest in any form of contact or interaction with him ever again. Again, he told me he would not try to contact me.
Over time, I unblocked everyone I had blocked on facebook. Why would I need them blocked? That was all in the past, Neither end would ever contact each other, and it seemed unnecessary at the time.
Except it was still very necessary because he tried adding me again. He also tried following me on instagram. He also tried adding me under a fake account on facebook, with his same pictures, and under the same fake name account on instagram, again with his same facial pictures. I rejected and blocked him on both social medias with both accounts. Then again, on yet another social media, he tried adding me on snapchat, with two separate accounts with his name.
Back when I got my new phone, he tried texting me. Me without contacts asked who it was and he refused to tell me, because I “probably don’t want to know”. This disgusting, male, who feels so entitled to interaction with me was fully aware I did not want him contacting me. It was only after I sent the number to someone else asking, did I find out who it was.
Every time I’ve wanted to delete his number, feeling like it’s finally been enough, he’ll finally leave me alone, I hold back. Fully aware of the possibility and danger that he may try again, and completely scared feeling like I need to know who’s number it is, so I can tell them to leave me alone.
I’m so upset that I didn’t start calling the police and documenting the times he contacted me, back at that first panic attack in fall. I wish I had taken my mothers advice and understood how serious this is, and started that so that I could easily file a restraining order.
This will not happen more. I refuse to allow this in my life. I refuse to live knowing that, in the back of my mind, how truly scary this person is to me. Michael Goodwin, my no will be respected. My no will be listened to. My no will be followed through. You will leave me alone.
men: rape jokes hahaha! beating women haha! lol make me a sandwich whore! put on makeup fugly! hahaha!
women: those aren’t funny.
men: lighten up, it’s a joke wow must be on her period women are so emotional lol
women: i drink the tears of men, haha!
men: hOW DARE YOU. HOW DARE YOU PROMOTE THE SUFFERING OF US MEN? DO YOU KNOW WHAT WE HAVE DONE FOR YOU? YOU WOULD BE NOTHING WITHOUT US. THATS NOT FUNNY AT ALL